About me

I don’t think we live in a world made up of neat categories and fixed facts. We live in a living, unfolding reality that’s always more than our theories can capture. The world is something we’re in, not something we just look at. Models, frameworks, and maps are useful, but they’re never the thing itself. I try to remember that whenever I’m tempted to become too certain, and I’m deeply suspicious whenever abstraction starts claiming greater authority than lived reality.

I’m wary of anyone who already knows the answer before they’ve properly looked at the situation. Whether it’s leadership, health, relationships, or business, my starting point is always the same: pay attention first. Good judgement begins with seeing clearly, not with reaching for a protocol, an ideology, a performance metric, or a philosophical school.

Knowledge has never been easier to access. It can tell you what Aristotle said, calculate risk, produce a dashboard, summarise a book, or generate twenty strategic options. But none of that guarantees you’ll know what matters, what to ignore, when to wait, what deserves courage, or how to live with the consequences. Wisdom still has to be earned, which is why philosophy, for me, can’t just be intellectual history. Its test is whether it changes the quality of someone’s seeing and living. I’m much less interested in helping people know more than I am in helping them see more, ask better questions, and make wiser decisions when the stakes are real.

There’s a powerful anti-authoritarian streak running through much of my work, but it isn’t adolescent rebellion or a blanket distrust of expertise. I have enormous respect for teachers and experts, and I’ve spent most of my life learning from people who know vastly more than me about particular things. But the goal of learning isn’t dependence. Education has succeeded when the teacher becomes progressively less necessary. Philosophy should give you greater capacity to interrogate assumptions, withstand social pressure, notice when everyone is repeating the same thing, and become increasingly capable of making up your own mind. I can’t stand coaching cultures that quietly turn dependency into a business model.

Becoming who you need to become often means leaving behind ways of thinking, working, and living that once made perfect sense. That can be uncomfortable, and sometimes lonely, but it’s a normal part of a life that’s still moving rather than simply repeating itself. I don’t think there’s a perfectly finished authentic self hidden underneath everything, waiting to be discovered. A life has to be continually authored, and sometimes that means old identities, friendships, careers, beliefs, and ambitions cease to fit. That can be painful without being pathological. The danger is constructing a life around protecting an identity whose time has passed. I have a deep admiration for congruence between philosophy and life.

My version of freedom isn’t “do whatever feels good”. It’s closer to existential freedom: nobody can finally answer the most important questions for you, and the biggest decisions in life can’t be delegated. What constitutes a worthwhile life? What compromises are acceptable? What deserves loyalty? What’s enough? What kind of person are you becoming? Other people can offer advice. Tradition can orient you. Biology constrains you. Circumstances throw you somewhere you didn’t choose. Philosophy can sharpen your thinking and experience can give you perspective. But eventually you still have to choose how you’ll live, and accept responsibility for that choice. That can be frightening, which is precisely why courage matters so much to me.

I’ve never wanted a life that’s perfectly optimised if it comes at the cost of curiosity. The people I admire most have kept their sense of exploration. They’re still learning, still experimenting, still willing to change their minds when reality gives them a good reason. I don’t think the good life is primarily about minimising disturbance. There has to be some unpredictability left in it. A person who has eliminated uncertainty, risk, novelty, strangeness, and play may have accidentally eliminated many of the conditions under which they feel most alive.

Health is having enough energy, clarity, and resilience to engage fully with your work, your relationships, and the world around you. When those things improve, life itself starts to look different. I fundamentally reject the idea that mind, body, and world can sensibly be treated as independent domains. Energy alters perception. Mood discloses a world. Chronic stress narrows possibility. A living organism in a richer state encounters affordances that the depleted organism genuinely can’t see. So health, for me, isn’t merely the absence of illness but something closer to capacity: enough energetic and psychological freedom to explore, relate, create, adapt, and participate.

I’m interested in helping people become more integrated, not more dogmatic. Real coherence isn’t rigid. It’s flexible enough to adapt without losing itself, and that’s as true for organisations as it is for individuals. A completely rigid ideology can be internally coherent while being catastrophically disconnected from reality. The coherence I value is living coherence: parts becoming better related while remaining capable of adaptation. An organism is coherent without being frozen. A conversation can become coherent without everyone agreeing. A person can become more integrated while retaining contradiction, uncertainty, and unfinishedness. That’s one of the deepest meanings of syntropy for me: not forcing order onto life, but creating the conditions under which richer order can emerge.

This is probably the thread that ties everything else together. It’s remarkably easy to drift into a career, a set of beliefs, or a way of living simply because that’s where life carried you. Philosophy is valuable because it interrupts that drift. It helps us notice what we’ve stopped noticing, question what we’ve stopped questioning, and become more awake to the life we’re actually living. I don’t want to retreat from science, rationality, or critical thought, and I have no desire to become credulous or to romanticise some pre-modern consciousness. But modern people have become dangerously good at standing outside things. We analyse relationships instead of relating. Measure organisations instead of inhabiting them. Photograph landscapes instead of seeing them. Explain experience instead of experiencing it. Accumulate information about life while somehow missing our own. The answer isn’t irrationality, but participation without surrendering discernment.